Fear that paralyzes is wasteful and useless. If you are scared it means you need to do something.
Fear that paralyzes is wasteful and useless. If you are scared it means you need to do something.
That being said it is time to start aggressively sharing some habits. How many books have you read? If you have a question I can pretty much guarantee the applied knowledge from a book, video, or seminar can help you. Read , look, listen. No get fixed quick here. Real change takes at least 18 months. It’s a software update for your brain. Good thing it’s automatic.
Let’s start with one that has changed my life :
If we are going to play a game, we need to know the rules and play it well. This book will show you those unwritten rules. The rest is up to you. If you want to grab it from Amazon click the link, if not get to the public library. The important thing here is that you acquire and apply the knowledge.
The story of this man is amazing! check out the original Quora answer here: http://qr.ae/4C7GZ
Ernest Shackleton did not achieve what he set out to achieve.
He, along with 27 other men, did not reach their goal of traversing the Antarctic continent when they set sail for it in September of 1914.
The expedition started out of a Norwegian whaling village named Grytvikan. The first coordinates were set for Vahsel Bay, the first destination point of the expedition. Before getting to Vahsel Bay, the ship was frozen in ice.
Without an ounce of momentum, Shackleton’s strategy became that of waiting until spring with the men and the ship until the ice melted. After months of waiting, the pressure from the ice cracked the ship and filled it with water.
He ordered the men to abandon it, pull the boats, and what supplies they could carry across the ice floes. Paulet Island was 350 miles away to the Northeast. If the men could eventually find open water treading through the floes, they could set sail for the Island.
They went only two miles in two days in search of open water.
The plan for Paulet Island is abandoned and in its place: camping on a barren sheet of ice. A crack at anytime seemed inevitable. Nearby killer whales surfacing anywhere near them would tip the sheet of ice.
Camping on this sheet of ice went on for two months.
The men set out for another march in good spirits only to be devastated that the progress was just as slow. Staying put for another four months on a drifting piece of ice makes the most sense to Shackleton.
After the six months, enough of the ice melts to set out for Elephant Island, which is only 30 miles away. Finding enough energy to sail for one day, Shackleton checks the coordinates to find that the current carried the boats now 60 miles from Elephant Island.
In the seven days of tirelessly paddling boats towards Elephant Island, the water supply ran out, the men were covered in ice showers, they endured darkness for 17 hours each day, did not sleep, and could see the island for two days but could do nothing to get closer to it.
When they finally land, the men are ecstatic. It’s the first time they’ve been on land in 497 days despite it being inhospitable and lacking any vegetation. Weathering their excitement was the realization that the location they landed was too susceptible to the unforgiving elements and they must move another 7 miles around the island to shield themselves.
Shackleton then realizes that there will not be enough food to last until spring when they have their best chance at being rescued. He explains this to the men, makes plans to reach the whaling stations on the Island of South Georgia 800 miles away and then selects only five men to join him. Every man volunteered to go with him.
The boat that will carry these men needs to be as nimble and weightless as possible and thusly Shackleton gives the order that each man was limited to only two pounds of gear for their personal items before setting out for this tiny speck on a map. Before any of the five men can think of their own sacrifices, Shackleton throws away his personal gear in front of the men, grabs a book and says, “
“This is the ship’s Bible that was given to us by the Queen before this voyage. I am keeping only three pages.”
He places the Bible down on the ice and holds up the three pages he tore out and reads one line from them:
“Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for thou art with me.”
Sixteen days of wind, gales, freezing ocean water, a leaking boat that needs bailed by hand and no water, the men land on the Coast of South Georgia.
On the wrong side of the island.
Shackleton plans to the cross the glaciers, mountain peaks and cliffs. Something no one had ever accomplished before before. But the men have to wait 10 days before they commence on the trek because of the unrelenting weather.
Ten days later and thirty-six hours of hiking, the men find civilization at the whaling stations. This is the first time they’ve seen civilization in 18 months.
Desperate to get back to the men on Elephant Island, three attempts with three different ships were all turned back because of impassable ice.
On the 4th attempt, four months later, Shackleton makes it back to Elephant Island where he triple counts in disbelief all 22 of his men waiving at him as he approaches.
What makes him the greatest leader of all time:
One might evaluate Shackleton and say that he cannot be considered as the greatest leader because he did not accomplish what he set out to do and what he planned to do. But the safety of his men became more important than the goal of Antartica. He did not think twice about making this the new focus which meant accepting the failure at his original mission.
The components of a good leader are revealed when will is most challenged. He put the safety of 28 men in knowingly impossible circumstances squarely on his shoulders. Hope was consistently dangled in front of him and the men only to be snatched away each time gazing out at what made for the most desolate place on the Planet.
No one could have kept the kind of optimism through all of this that Shackleton did. He often started singing contests and made soccer games on ice flores to keep morale high while stranded in the frozen ocean.
He screened for the best people.
He knew the type of people he wanted and knew the vision that would appeal to those type of people. Those looking for the fame of being apart of this voyage would have died and brought the rest of the crew down with them.
His process for selection of the team was called eccentric by many. He believed character and temperament were as important as technical ability. He often asked questions meant to be unconventional and uncomfortable. He asked the physicist for the ship how he was at singing.
Shackleton sacrificed himself before any of his men and not one member of his team thought he’d ever do otherwise. In one instance, the photographer, Frank Hurley had lost his gloves. Shackleton removed his and insisted Hurley take them. When Hurley refused, Shackleton threatened to throw him overboard if he didn’t take them. Inevitably and knowingly, Shackleton developed permanent frostbite in his fingers after this.
Ernest Shackleton died on a ship on his last voyage from a heart attack. A post mortem was conducted by the expedition’s physician concluded that the cause of death was atheroma of the coronary arteries exacerbated by “overstrain during a period of debility”.
The ship that Shackleton selected which didn’t make it past the first obstacle had been built in Norway and it was designed to withstand polar ice.
He changed the name of the ship from “Poseidon” to “Endurance,” to honor his family’s motto:
“By Endurance We Conquer.”
The answers are here,All around us. Do the work, put in your time, perfect your craft. This post is another example.
This week it finally caught up with me. Late nights, little sleep, and long flights have made me ill. We have come along way because the team is working hard. The team is on their “Grind”. We are far ahead of where we were, but still not where we want to be. This is the fourth quarter, not time to quit. This is when you run on will, because your body starts to fail. Your mind pulls your body to the finish line.
Well folks, I’m a human too, and my mind started to betray me. I am down, I am tired, I am sick, and the four letter word I hate the most crept into my mind. “Q..U..I..T”.
Oh no, no..not today. We run through tape not to the tape. Then I remembered it’s Wednesday and I haven’t had my dose of T.G.I.M.
Mister Thomas reminded me who I was, what I am doing, and why I am doing it. Especially around loving the process when we don’t seem to see a result.
Hopefully when your down you can pull this up. You may be down but you are not out!
In a well-managed business, all promotions are self-made. The employer’s only part in the transaction is to check carefully to make sure the promotion was earned.
The perfect formula for destroying morale in any organization is to create a working environment that leads employees to believe that the only way to get ahead is by playing politics. The best-managed businesses are those in which every promotion is earned and every qualified person has an equal opportunity to compete for it. If you’re a manager, weigh all decisions involving your employees on the basis of fairness. And if you aspire to be a manager, choose to work for a company that is fair in its treatment of workers. When you’ve earned your position through skill and effectiveness, you have the best job security.
My wife reminded me today of an important lesson that was taught long ago that has been forgotten. We learn from everything and can learn from anywhere as long as our eyes are open. Being children of the 80’s, a big part of our entertainment was “The Cosby Show”, a cultural phenomenon that brought the nation together to follow the life of an African American doctor, his attorney wife, and their five children. Every episode had a lesson and was entertaining, but yesterday my wife recycled a lesson for our 13 year old son.
Our son loves the Phillies and was scheduled to go to a baseball game. He took out his trusty Phillies jersey that was wrinkled beyond belief . He throws it on an approaches the door. My wife who has a mom – radar that can rival an international airport stops him in his tracks. “Did you iron that shirt?”. My soon answers, “No mom, I really want to get to the game and it’s just the game, no one cares”. Now at this point I know some who would use other methods, namely me. My wife is like a parenting surgeon who uses precision tools, comparatively I am like an unevolved Cro-magnon scraping with stone tools. She continues and pulls out the Cosby garbage can lid analogy and ends “You’re a great kid, smart, polite, outgoing, don’t ruin it by presenting yourself on a garage can lid”. He immediately understands and corrects his actions.
In business and life sometimes we forget the power of Image. Presentation and Image make a difference. Of course, you need substance to back it up, but the most appetizing dinner in the world is unappetizing when presented on a garbage can lid!
For reference below is the episode from which the analogy came. Skip to the 2:18 mark.
Many of the lessons in my life and career have been learned the hard way. Fortunately or unfortunately I am an experiential learner, and have made mistakes in my personal and professional life that upon reflection seem obvious to avoid and silly to have made. I am not perfect, but an ever improving work in progress.
One of these lessons is “If you cannot agree with others at least disagree in a civil manner”.
I use to pride myself on being a fighter, determined, and focused (some may even have said stubborn! :). This is the exact opposite tactic to be effective!
I usually err on the side of action, but during a disagreement the best course of action is to pause and think. There is more to this than just being polite! Assuming your goal is to resolve an issue, a heated argument does nothing to achieve that goal. Your opponent stops listening to you the minute your voice is raised, you are judged as aggressive and / or irrational by observers and you have actually gone backward on resolving the real issue. Most importantly, when you argue you stress yourself out. That has health consequences when done consistently.
It is impossible to be constructive when your emotions have run away with you. As my wife says “You have to give someone the power to upset you”. I learned from a mentor that asking questions, and not taking anything personally, is the best way to diffuse a situation. Factual and direct is the best course of action. The entire situation may be a misunderstanding, or the result of a temporary bad day that can be easily worked through and blow over. Even if it is about you personally, remaining positive and constructive is the best defense against unwarranted attacks.
Stay positive my friends!
You are the sum of your choices and you can make better choices. Your problems are pretty much a direct or indirect outcome of the choices you have made, own up to them. “Kill the monster while it is small”, don’t waste time blaming or bickering just quickly focus on the solution. Once the problem is fixed there is plenty of time to ensure you do not repeat it.
Your career is like poker, win more than you lose! Negative things will happen, it isn’t what happens, but how you react to it. Everything is connected, and actions have consequences, ensure those consequences are positive as often as possible. Be fair and make sure you are playing the long game. Life is a marathon not a sprint and I assure you everyone’s deeds catch up to them for better or worse. None of us are perfect, I know I am not, but I try to make up for my faults and reverse course as quickly as possible.
Academic Success in school does not necessarily add up to success at your career. Everyone has challenges in life that are subjects school just does not cover. A degree can help you move faster, but it isn’t a silver bullet. Learning is required, classrooms are not. Learning occurs through experience, observations, and conversations as well as formal education. Like the old NBC Saturday Morning slogan “The More You Know” , I would add, the easier it gets. Simply concentrate on learning when the opportunity presents itself.
It’s not about you!
No one cares about your problems, they only care how you can solve their problems. If your day started out bad do something to make it better. Remain positive and prepared, don’t be a Pollyanna, but positive thoughts breed positive thoughts. Prepare for the worst and expect the best. No one deserves to be impacted by your moods.
While you are at it open your mind! Different perspectives on life exist because we are all the sum of our actions and experiences. Differences in these actions and experiences breed different points of view (POV). Just because you want to climb the corporate ladder and think that is the end all.. be all, not everyone will agree, and not everyone will want to follow your plan. Everyone is different, do not try to make them you!
You have two ears and one mouth for a reason.
Listen twice as much as you speak and be stingy with your words. More anguish has been caused by saying something unwittingly offensive, than all the physical attacks in the world combined.
Tomorrow is not promised and Time is the only non renewable resource
Stop wasting time. Stop procrastinating. Stop filling your days with non-sense. You may not see tomorrow so cherish today! Stop using the “next week I’ll start….” cop-out. Every moment you waste is gone forever. Do it now!
The choice is yours!
Believe it or not you are in control . Just because your options are far from optimal does not take away your choice. Not making a choice is also a choice with consequences. Work your decision making muscle as often as you can. The sum total of your life is a culmination of all choices you have made up to that point. Make quality choices.
No one is coming to your rescue, So you better give 110% to your goals. Have goals and work toward them consistently. It’s the brick every day consistently that builds the great wall! Succeed or fail go for what you want, because if you do not try will all your being you will regret it for the rest of your life. As they say “burn the ships”.